A few weeks ago I received a phone call from my dad, a voicemail and a few text messages to call him when I got a chance. “I went to the doctor today and they found some cancer in my colon.”
Let me tell you about my dad, Dewayne White. He’s one of the most loyal people I’ve ever met. He taught me never to take friendships for granted, to always follow through, that you’re only as good as your word. If someone says “you can’t” then you show them that you can. The importance of balance, that a job (and losing one) is not your whole life. He also taught me to ride a bike after ours got hit by a car (I was three), that planking is the best way to get defined abs, the key to floating in a pool was to keep your butt up, that you respect the opening band (he saw AC/DC open for Kiss), it’s more fun to be just a tiny bit crazy and all that matters in life is the impact you have on others. I am my father.
Hearing that he had cancer felt like a wave crashed on me and brought me under with it. It hurt to breathe, like I was choking on my breath for weeks. We talked through the next steps, doctor appointments, surgery, oncology meetings, chemo 101 classes, chemo nutritionist appointments (that’s a thing?) and now we’re here.
When Sam Mills, a former Carolina Panthers player, was diagnosed with cancer he knew he had two options: quit or keep pounding. So we only have one option and we will keep pounding. Stay strong dad. You’re one of the best people I know.